Hello!
How’s it going?
It seems like AGES since I last posted, it has been ages, and I miss you guys A LOT.
My kids got the awful sickness bug that has apparently been going around. We’ve had long nights of bed changing, pyjama changing, hand holding as they slept and waking up at the first sound of retching as their hot bodies sat up in bed beside us.Well, I say ‘us’ Robert was edged out in to the next room to make room for the twins but he appeared bleary eyed in the doorway whenever the throwing up started again.
It scares you when their cheeks are that red and hot. And a person, albeit a very small person, who usually has a great deal to say for herself just lays there all day asleep or staring out of the window.
My son kept hold of Thomas at all times. A tank engine is a good friend when you’re not feeling too great.
There were times in the week when they perked up a bit. At those times I dropped what I was doing and we went outside. The kids only lasted about ten minutes before getting tired and falling asleep again but it was worth it.
I never thought I’d have children. It wasn’t on my radar. And then I met Robert. I loved him so much I wanted more of him and seeing as it’s impossible for him to multiply like a Mogwai in water we had to have babies.
Little did I know, when I was in my ‘I don’t think I’d make a great mum’ stage, how much joy I would get from just looking out and seeing something that made my son so freaking excited (in this case a tractor heading towards us). He squealed when he saw it coming over the horizon and the squeals got louder and louder as it approached.
Kids are reductive in the BEST sense of the word. They dispense with all things extraneous and reduce life to what it should be from time to time, simply joyful.
And they allow me to take that journey with them.
We need each other.
My kids need Robert and I to show them the way, keep them safe and make decisions for them at this time in their young lives.
And we need them to remind us that it doesn’t have to be that complicated, that we don’t need all this STUFF to make us happy and we observe from them how to live in the now.
I’ll never forget the last week as they have never been THAT ill.
I’ll remember how their hands felt as they held on to mine in the middle of the night, hot, small and soft. And how their breathing was so deep and gentle.
I’ve got some updates about the book, this website and just stuff in general. So I’ll post all of that anon. But I wanted to check in today to say “hi” and “thank you”.
Have a wonderful start to the week. I love you and thank you for reading.
Cherry x
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Wow. I just rediscovered your blog and found out that YOU HAVE TWINS! Congratulations! I, too have boy/girl twins. They will be 4 this summer. It is quite a journey, one that only other moms of multiples really understand…I related so much to your post about your children being sick. Your place in the world is unmistakable when 2 little feverish people look up and call you mommy. We are lucky!
welcome back! Hope the Bubba’s will be all better soon.xxx
Hi Cherry.Lovely thoughtful post as usual. Saw you at the Sainsbury’s do last night and thought how marvelous you looked. That bigger than life size image they had of you projected on the wall looked stupendous.
Ah, Cherry! This post brought back memories that were not-so-pleasant of our own personal experiences of rearing twin daughters – plus another daughter only 20 months older than her twin sisters! Those stomach viruses would literally lay us ALL low! There were nights of my sleeping on the floor of their bedrooms so I could be present more quickly. I hope you and Robert have escaped the “bug.”
Yet, you have expressed so well the rewards of parenting when you experience the glee of your child in viewing something that to us in our adulthood is so ordinary – a tractor moving across the field! Priceless!
Our twins are now 37, and their sister is soon to be 39. Where do the years go?!?
Cherry,
Another beautifully written, heart-felt, emotional post! Your children are truly blessed to have such wonderful, loving parents. I hope that your blog can in some way be preserved so that your children will be able to read of your love for them.
You will need to have this evidence when you and Robert become “the meanest parents in the world!”
Don’t worry……You have several years ahead of you before Ned and Nye enter that stage. 
But, seriously, we all can relate to the sleepless nights and endless worry when children become ill, at any age, but particularly when they are so young.
Wishing you happy, sunny, healthy days!
Marilyn (in Dallas)
So glad they are on the mend. My children’s old school pediatrician’s nurse used to say she could always tell how sick the children had been by the exhausted parents. Stay well.
Lovely Cherry: Being a mum gives you extra strenght for those difficults moments ( I remember nights without sleep, holding my little boy’s hand). I’m so glad your kids get better. Ned looks so grown up! love. Verónica
Oh I’d be heartbroken if I had kids and they were ill! So glad to hear they’re doing better now <3
I do hope the babes are on the mend. It does hurt you when they’re sick, doesn’t it? I hope they’re well enough to hunt eggs in a few weeks!
So glad the littlies are on the mend……each day they’ll be stronger and more sparkey! My George is off school poorly at the mo – on Friday he was so out of sorts and just wanted to lay with his head on my lap and whimper; so out of character for him. I felt pretty useless as I couldn’t make it better, when really all he wanted was Mum – so pleased I could do that for him at least! Hugs to all, S xx
Hi Cherry – glad everyone is on the mend – i’ve had the same bug recently too so I know it’s not nice at all. What a beautiful week though for everyone to be feeling better – I heard this morning that this spell of sunshine is meant to last a good couple of weeks so HURRAY for that I say.
Isn’t it great that a tractor can cause that much excitement – there should be more of that in the world.
Take care, Bex.x
The poor little meatballs.
It is so hard (not to mention scary) when they’re ill. I’ve got my girl off school today, she has a tummy ache (but is leaping about now, so thankfully all is well, the tummy ache just a memory).
I didn’t think I’d be a mummy either. Took years to finally have my beautiful girl, and I love and cherish every moment. Even when I’m telling her off, I think ‘aww, she’s so lovely’.
And as she likes to tell me ‘you love me more than shoes mum’. Tough call, but yep, she wins!
Pre ordered your book at the weekend. Am very excited about it!
Hope all traces of illness are leaving your home right now, so you can enjoy the weather. Very bright and sunny in East Anglia.
x
hello Cherry
My Grandson is the same age as your little ones and he caught a tummy bug last summer, there is nothing you can do but be there for them, pleased they are on the mend now, the sunshine will do them the world of good, take care, looking forward to your updates, Tina x
Cherry I’m glad your babies are better such a scary time when our babies are sick. Miss seeing post hope life slows down for you soon. Have a great start of the week!!!!
Bless them, and you both. Glad to hear they are on the road to recovery now – perhaps get some Minadex multivits seeing as they’ve lost so much nutrition? I’ll never forget my 4 year old getting pneumonia this last November, going from feverish to uncontrollably hot with shallow breathing in the space of 30 minutes. Scary stuff. Kids are kids though and after a stint in hospital he came home tired but better, and 6 weeks later it was all a distant memory (for him at least!)
Hope Ned and Nye are on the road to recovery now. Have a good week and enjoy some time outside in the sunshine! Low x
Hi Cherry, we’ve missed you too. I hope your little ones are better now, there’s nothing worse than a sickness bug. Mine have had temperatures this past week and lots of snot (lovely) and sticky eyes but I always feel it’s not as bad as the dreaded sickness bug.
Looking forward to the updates and how’s the packing going? Will you be decorating your house again for easter or are you having to skip that this
year due to packing.
Have a lovely day, the sun is gorgeous here in Kent today xx
Dear Cherry,
I hope the children are over the worst of it now and get better quickly. Sounds like you can all do with some good sleep nights. I love the way you talk about your children. They will grow up in a loving secure family. The right of every child.
Whenever my kids were ill, I used to feel I was earning my ‘mummy stripes’. You’re not a real mum until you’ve stripped vomit-full beds at 3am, mopped hot brows and stared, transfixed by their poorly faces, waiting for a glimmer of improvement.
I’m so glad they’re better.
Paula
xx