So the conversation went something like this -
“Robert, the kids birthday lands on a Sunday this year. If it’s warm shall we get up early, meet the family at the beach and celebrate there?”
“That sounds like a good idea, lets do that”
By the time it got to last Wednesday I think it was clear to both Robert and I that it would not be beach weather come Sunday afternoon. Cue a flurry of texts and tadaaahhhh!, we had a party!
The party began at 2pm and my kids got up from a very long sleep at about 13.30pm. I went up to get them and made my way over to my daughter’s wardrobe to pull out a nice dress for her to wear. At that moment my daughter decided for the first time in her short life that she only wanted to wear a nappy, her winter coat and some socks. A few hours later she agreed to remove the coat and put on the top you see in the picture but she never did wear her nice party dress.
I felt slightly scuppered.
If you’d have shown me this picture ten years ago I’d not have believed it to be real. Here we were in my kitchen, friends, family and parents as mothers, fathers and grandparents. You never think it’s going to happen to you but it does. And as my friend Kate and I were dancing in the corner of the kitchen to Dolly Parton’s 9-5, with our own daughters dancing around our feet, it suddenly dawned on me that I am going to be the cause of somebody’s embarrassment for at least the next twenty years. A mother’s lot I suppose but I used to be cool, doesn’t she know that?
I promise, daughter, I used to be cool!!
But Kate and I have had our time center stage. There’s a new bunch on the way up.
Looking out for each other, having fun, hanging out. And they’ll need their space to be free and express themselves they way we did. We’ll allow that, I’m sure, and as they go crazy finding themselves we’ll drink tea….
….and lots of tea!
My friends and I will go for ‘treatments’ and weep in to the face pillows as we settle in to our massages. We’ll swap bikinis for sturdy one-piece swimsuits with kaftan’s over the top and huge chunky silver jewellery.
It’s time to step aside. We are now the ‘Unnoticed’. We are officially parents.
I’m being dramatic, but you know that.
We had a good time. It was absolute chaos but such good fun.
It wasn’t the beach but that doesn’t matter it was us, food, drink and Spotify through my iPhone. All that and lots of cuddles….
…lots and lots of cuddles…….
…and then some more cuddles thrown in for good measure.
Our good friends and family came out in the rain to help us celebrate at the drop of a hat.
And as I looked around the kitchen at the end of it all to see party hats, baby bottles and half drunk glasses of Prosecco I realised that this was life now. It wasn’t one thing or the other but a mixture of everything.
And I love it.
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