This rather innocuous looking corner is my kitchen’s Sweet Spot. I’m employing a touch of reverse psychology here, calling it my Sweet Spot, as what I would naturally call it is ‘the place that is always a mess’, ‘where we dump stuff’ ‘a drain to look at’, ‘tiring’, ‘stressful’….you get the picture.
Here it is on Saturday.
It was a lovely sunny morning, the kids were out in the garden with Robert who was working on putting up the fence in the front garden. I was heading out to the garden as well and as I was about to pass this area it dawned on me that, after having been in this house for only eight short weeks, my kitchen had already developed its Sweet Spot (aka Messy Hell)
I have had an area like this in every house I’ve lived in and I’m sure you have your own versions. It could be the kitchen table, the window sill just inside the front door, down by the side of your bed, your dresser, your car, etc…..
What I don’t think we realise is how depressing areas like this can be. They scream of chaos and I think it’s really hard to relax, unwind or even be productive in a place that is in chaos.
That’s not to say that an area won’t ever get messy. I’m testing many recipes at the moment but I factor in a cleaning up time nowadays so once the recipe is finished I can move on to something else in peace and not be reminded of it it when I’m exhausted and want to go to bed. More often than not I do go to bed, leaving the mess, and the whole thing is still there in the morning. I refuse to start my days like this any more. And on a more petty level I also refuse to have one tiny corner of my home make me feel this rubbish and discouraged.
So now it’s my Sweet Spot. I’ve reclaimed it, re-named it and shall treat it with care and attention. I won’t ignore it or dump on it. I’ve read around the subject of forming habits and it can take anything from 21 days to 250 with the average being 66. This says to me that it is different for everyone and I think you have got to really WANT to form a new habit if you’ve any chance of allowing it to stick.
I’m a busy mum of twins, with writing deadlines to meet, friends and family I want to hang out with, new hobbies I want to explore, old hobbies I want to rediscover, no cleaner (although I’m certainly not against having one), a house I can’t wait to get my claws in to and the garden of my dreams that has great potential. So, like you, I’m busy. This means that it’s best for me to take these tasks in bite sized chunks and deal with them over time. That way I’m not overwhelmed, Robert can join in by keeping it tidy too, and I don’t get that rather crippling sense of failure when I take on too much and don’t quite achieve the goal I set for myself.
It’s one corner. It’s manageable.
It’s not decorated they way it will be one day but it would be really easy to use that as an excuse. Say we don’t get around to tiling for another year or so, am I going to live with a chaotic corner for that long? No way!
It needs to work for me and my family right now, in its current decorative state.
So here’s to Sweet Spots and the conquering thereof.
Do you have one? Does it break your heart a little when it stays the same day after day or longer? Do you find them stressful? Do they drain you of energy?
Tell me about them. I think they are nasty buggers and I think they need to be eradicated. So let’s do it together.
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